Often, we idealize our family relationships to the point of overlooking situations that hurt us, keeping us unconditionally attached to them. However, we are beginning to understand that the mere existence of a family bond should not force us to remain in environments where we do not experience love or even where we are hurt.
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The story of this young father can be difficult to digest because of the complicated decision his sister made.
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Surely the man did not expect to find so many little ones as part of the event, let alone the answer his sister gave him.
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The situation faced by the protagonist of this story is extremely complicated because it is about a person who is important in his life. Here are some tips to help deal with any conflicts one may have with a relative:
- The first thing the dad in the story did is an excellent way to address the problem. Taking a step back, leaving the scene, and letting the feelings that have impacted him calm down a bit will prevent a major argument.
- Making a list of his feelings and what he needs to say to his sister, to have a mature discussion and make decisions, is a way of looking at the bigger picture.
- Trying to find the root of this decision. Perhaps she has done something similar before or a situation has occurred that hints at her unpleasant behavior toward the child.
- Finding a quiet moment to talk about the situation, and then think about what might have led to this painful decision. It is also worth asking up front why she did it.
- After listening to her and expressing your feelings, you will be able to make a decision, not necessarily at the moment, but you will be able to analyze if it was a mistake, a misunderstanding, if it is something you can work on so that it doesn’t happen again and also so that the wound she made can heal.
By the way, a study by the University of Cambridge found that being at odds with your siblings can create a better adult life for the both of you.